Turning 40 as a Woman of Color: What No One Tells You

Turning 40 as a woman of color can come with some unexpected benefits.

Today’s Question For Your Uncommon Evolution: What is one rule about adulthood you no longer believe? Turning 40 didn’t make me feel old. It made me feel suspicious. Suspicious of what I had been led to believe would be important by now. Suspicious of the timelines I complied with, suspicious of the goals I met, … Read more

Why Millennial Women of Color Can Lose Themselves In Relationships – And How to Stop

Losing yourself in a relationship can be very common for women of color.

Today’s Question for your Uncommon Evolution: What is one thing you miss making time for? Losing yourself in a relationship usually doesn’t happen because you wake up one morning and consciously decide that your partner’s needs, preferences, schedule, moods, friendships, hobbies, and opinions are all more important than your own. It happens much more gradually … Read more

The Difference Between Being Kind and Abandoning Yourself to Keep the Peace

People pleasing can be difficult to overcome for women of color.

Today’s Question For Your Uncommon Evolution: What is one responsibility you wish you could put down? For a long time, I did not recognize my people pleasing as people pleasing because I thought I was simply being kind. Being kind, at least in my mind, meant being flexible, understanding, generous, and willing to let things … Read more

Why Midlife Reinvention Looks Different for Women of Color

midlife reinvention for women of color

Today’s Question For Your Uncommon Evolution: What part of your life feels ready for a change? Midlife reinvention for women of color looks nothing like the version most wellness content shows you, and the idea usually comes with a swift feeling of terror, because for most of us, the word that usually follows midlife is … Read more

Why “Living Authentically” Can Feel So Complicated for Millennial Women of Color

authenticity for women of color

Today’s Question For Your Uncommon Evolution: When your values conflict, which one usually wins? I’ve been thinking a lot lately about authenticity for women of color, and about authenticity in general. Not because it’s a particularly new idea, but because it seems to be one of those words that everyone uses and very few people … Read more

What Leaving Social Media Gave Me

Leaving social media.

Today’s Question for Your Uncommon Evolution: What deserves more of your attention than it’s currently receiving? There are a few big decisions I’ve made in my adult life that I can point to and say, without hesitation, they changed me. And I’m really proud of each of these decisions because they were all an intentional, … Read more